I am an introvert by nature. The very act of reaching out, especially to a person I’ve never met or interacted with, is an immense trial for me. The great thing is that no one is a pure introvert or extrovert. I take comfort in that and find the courage to take action as often as I can.
So when I (or any other introvert) reaches out, here are a few things you extroverts (or you choosy introverts) should keep in mind. These apply both on and off the internet.
- I am reaching out to you for a specific reason that is specific to you. If you do not reply for whatever reason, I will take that as an introvert would & possibly not ever reach out to you again.
- Introverts like to talk if it’s for a reason that we are interested and/or passionate about. If we chime in at any given time, we are taking a conscious risk to meaningfully engage you in a candid fashion.
- Introverts are very sensitive people. Please don’t take our time and effort for granted. We will notice and may not tell you if we have ceased communication.
- Introverts prefer it if everyone around them are content because negative energy causes drama. If we take the risky initiative and offer a few shards of our heart to you, please do not slap them out of our open palms.
- Introverts have difficulty connecting and, ultimately, making friends. If we don’t answer back right away, sometimes we just need some time to process a response that is worth reading. We are usually surprised when anyone reaches out to us.
My blog, Meganekko Memoirs, has been on the internet for nearly a decade, give or take. A few days ago, I reached 100 blog followers. This, by sheer contrast, should be staggering for anyone who has blogged for more than a year. It’s uncommon for anyone with any sort of consistency to require THAT long to draw a crowd. Fact is, it did for me.
Why? Because I never intended for my blog to mean anything to anyone but me. I would type whatever my twisted heart would be spilling out and maybe my 2 or 3 friends would read my emotional, hyper-personal slop after bugging them to do so.
If you have read my About the Author page, you will know that that childish, self-centered mindset has changed significantly. And I have changed right along with this blog. The real reason why I reached 100 followers is probably because I began caring about important issues in new ways and expressing them as they applied to my life. I opened my heart and mind to my self & others, which turned this from a self-indulgent smut blog, to a shallow, unthoughtful anime girl blog, and finally a deep introspective that has evolved into the memoir blog of a transgender girl.
Now I have a supposed 100 people who clicked that silly “Follow” button. To that I say…
Thank you very much for reaching out to this quiet, ambitious introverted girl with a feisty front.
Here’s a proposition though: How about we all start fresh shall we? Let me know you’re real with a “Like” or a comment. I already know I will not receive a total of 100 Likes and comments, but here is a rare opportunity to raise your voice. In return, I will do all I can to return your gesture soon & use this post to keep your blog in mind in the future.
I sincerely hope you continue to find value in this humble space of mine as I reach out with honesty, beauty, and ugliness that make me me.
And you “get rich quick” blogs with no real interest in anything but making me a statistic, kindly unfollow me so I can reach 100 again. I could get used to this.
~* Ren *~